I want to begin by stating…..
I’m married.
So, just to be clear…..
I’m married.
Because I don’t want there to be any confusion that……..
I’m married.
Now that we have the elephant in the room out on the table, front and center, let me explain further.
My hope was that of all places in this world where many of us that are here are judged for our proclivities, this would be a place of non-judgment. Unfortunately, I’ve found that to not necessarily be the case. If the fact that I am married causes you any issues, I respect your position; all I ask is that you respect mine.
I have been involved in bondage and BDSM off and on for more than 20 years. Due to health issues my wife is no longer able to, or interested in, participating in any kind of play. I have respected her decision and lived without for several years, but have missed it greatly. While I love my wife dearly, and have no intention of changing the fact that I am married, I would like to get back into the lifestyle that I enjoyed for so long, and have recently been missing. Out of respect for my wife’s privacy on such a personal matter, I will not go into any further detail here. However, I am willing to answer questions you may have privately.
As far as what I seek……..is a play partner. It doesn’t matter to me if you are single, married, or somewhere in between, or if you are married, whether your husband knows or not. That is your own personal decision, and I respect that. My preference would be for an on-going, periodic relationship with someone. While I am not opposed to a one time meeting, I prefer the connection that develops over time. Learning each other’s emotions, desires, body, allows for a deeper, more intense connection that can be more satisfying to both parties.
As far as who I seek………it is one with a curiosity, a sense of adventure and a willingness to trust. Creativity, imagination, and a willingness to explore are more important than age or appearance. While a physical attraction helps to intensify the experience, that attraction can come in many forms. It is not about any one physical attribute like your weight, hair color, or any one of many others, but rather it is the combination of all that makes you who you are. Even more so, how you carry yourself, your attitude, a knowing glance, a shy smile, all can define you as well.
I am open to all safe, sane, and consensual things BDSM, where everyone’s limits are respected. BDSM has kind of a bad , but it doesn’t have to be creepy or scary. It can be the ultimate connection between two people. The submissive person willing to trust another to give themselves over and the dominant person having the respect for what a gift that is. Pain or humiliation does not have to be a part of it. There are so many other aspects to explore, the options are endless.
If you have experience, that’s great! Knowing your likes, dislikes and limits will let us get off to a quicker start. If you’re a beginner and want to “learn the ropes” that’s ok too! Here’s your chance to explore your fantasies in a relaxed setting, at a pace you are comfortable with. No pressure. Let’s explore together.
I am willing to work with you to explore your wants, needs and desires. This is your chance to let yourself go. If you have never experienced any aspects of bondage such as being tied up, blindfolded, or something else, it can be a very intense. When one sense is taken away the other senses become that much more acute trying to make up for it. That can really heighten the sensations and the experience. Simply having your hands tied so you can’t use your fingers to touch, will make the rest of your body that much more sensitive to any stimulus, like warmth, cold, vibration, anything. If your fantasy is about being submissive, a damsel in distress, or something else, this is a way to explore that without giving up anything in your everyday life.
As far as my limits, my only hard limit is scat. If you enjoy it that’s fine, but you will have to look elsewhere for it. There are other things that even after all these years I have never found the right partner to try them with, but you never know. While I don’t mind slow and sensual, I must admit I have a bit of a sadistic streak and enjoy rough and hard aspects as well. However, all play will respect your hard and soft limits which we will establish well in advance of any play. My profile fetishes give you an idea of my preferences, but rather than go into a long list of what I want I would prefer to discuss it together.
I have a wide compliment of toys and equipment to make the most of our time together. Some is more traditional bondage gear, store purchased and homemade. Other would appear to be more mundane household things. It is amazing what a deviant mind sees in everyday things found in the aisles of the home improvement store or saddler shop. Even a trip to the dollar store can be an adventure. However, if you have any toys of your own, by all means bring them along. Whether it is your favorite blindfold or your personal “assistant” who you have so lovingly nicknamed, I am willing to work with it so you are comfortable.
I will be open, honest, and make no value judgments. Due to my personal situation, and professional commitments, absolute discretion on your part is a must, and I fully offer the same in return. For those reasons I do not post face pictures here, but am willing to share privately. For those same reasons I am seeking someone who is available weekdays. The length and frequency of sessions will be dependent on professional commitments. They may be a few hours to all day, a couple of days or a couple of weeks apart. It depends on what we can mutually work out. There may periodically be the odd evening or weekend opportunity, but those would be extremely rare. If you can host that would be ideal, as it takes the unknown factor away. If that is not possible we will make other arrangements. I am willing to meet anywhere in the SE Michigan area, however my preference would be to meet in the Ann Arbor area to leverage time.
I enjoy exchanging messages, sharing our wants, needs, desires, fantasies, and fetishes, so we can get to know each other, become comfortable together, and make that connection. While I am primarily looking for real time connections, I am also surprised how much I am enjoying chatting. I don’t mind a vanilla discussion or exchange of ideas, but a down and dirty fantasy session is my favorite. So I am open to if that is all you are looking for.
[if254 1]
|